Welcome! This is a place where we talk about
sex and eroticism
and playfulness and pleasure
and frivolity and fun
(and yes, we talk about deep emotions and intimacy too)
Officially, this work is known as ‘sex and intimacy coaching’ or ‘relationship coaching’. For me, though, my philosophy is simple: pleasure is healing. And I want you to experience more pleasure and joy in your life.
The work we do together supports the expression of yourself and your needs without shame, and leads to deeper connections + relationships with others and yourself.
And while we do have fun (I promise!), I won’t pretend sexual healing is all an easy, serene path. I don’t intentionally disrupt your peace, but I don’t put peace on a pedestal.
hi, i’m allie — a certified sex and intimacy coach in portland, maine
In my work with individuals and couples, talking about taboo subjects is what I do best.
You know, the topics that make you blush and sweat and clench your buttcheeks together.
I know these are scary, vulnerable topics to explore, and my role as your sex and relationship coach is to make talking about them as un-intimidating (and yummy) as possible.
A lot of my clients come to me in turmoil – many feelings shame and guilt around their sexuality.
Which is completely understandable (given the society we live in) yet infuriates me – it’s such a heavy burden to carry, and totally unnecessary!
Your sexuality isn’t something you need to hide. I don’t want you to just ‘accept’ it, either.
My goal is to help you embrace what you’ve been taught to bury – for you to celebrate your pleasure and desires and see your eroticism as *amazing*, rather than something to be ashamed of.
You’re not going to scare me off by having big feelings or asking questions that you’ve only ever Googled in incognito mode. The conversations that start with “I don’t know if this is TMI…” are the exact conversations I want to have with you.
sex and intimacy coaching services for individuals and couples
How it works
First off: it’s totally normal to want to have hot sex (and meaningful relationships).
To want to feel connected, naughty, seen, alive, powerful, safe, desired, chosen, cared for… you name it.
I’m a big fan of bringing your eroticism out of the dark and into your everyday life where you actually get to play with and celebrate it!
I work with...
People who are single, dating and partnered
Monogamous and open couples
People of all genders
For individuals after our initial 20-minute consultation, we’d begin with a 90-minute discovery session.
For couples we start with a couples consult (or 1:1 consult for each partner), and from there we decide whether to move forward with individual sessions or a couples session.
If we all feel it’s a good fit, we can then get into either a coaching program (3 or 6 months), or continue with a la carte sessions. For me, the important thing is to meet you where you’re at, and give you the support that’s most helpful to you.
And depending on what’s easiest for you, we can do our sessions online or in person.
what does ‘somatic sex and intimacy coaching’ mean when you work with me?
Somatic sex coaching looks different for different practitioners
For me, when I say I work with my clients ‘somatically’, it means we’re doing more than talking – I want to get your whole body involved, not just your mind.
This means I’ll include simple exercises or playful practices we’ll do in session (think breathwork, boundary mapping, pleasure mapping, touch exploration).
Every part of the work we do together is completely reliant on consent and alignment with your goals. The touch-based pieces are generally things we’ll work up to, and our clothes always stay on (shoes optional!).
One of the biggest things to know is that in this work, *you don’t have to censor yourself* (and neither will I). I don’t get uncomfortable when you ugly cry, or air your ‘dirty’ secrets. I’ll show up with you in your vulnerability, every single time.
For more info on exactly what to expect, I’ve got a more in-depth list of FAQs on my couples and individual coaching pages.
P.S. I see clients both in person and online! If coming into my office isn’t in the cards, let me know and we can set up a way to work together virtually.
What my clients have to say
“Allie is an exceptional coach. She has a unique talent that makes you feel confident, attractive empowered in dating.”
Michael, single client in his 30s
Allie is so easy to talk to. After 26 years of marriage, our sex life is the best it's been. Working with Allie changed everything!
Jenya, married client in her 50’s
“Allie holds space for all your feelings. Working with her is truly joyful—even when it is scary to admit you need help in the most vulnerable places.”
Lorraine, middle-aged married client & mom
“Allie helped me learn about myself, express my desires, and have the most amazing hot sex ever!”
Paul, middle-aged polyamorous client
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