What is it that you deeply desire ?

…when it comes to sex and intimacy?

Do you want to feel connected, naughty, alive, powerful, desired, chosen, cared for…something else?

And how does that overlap with or relate to what you deeply desire to experience in life?

Let’s talk about it. I want to help you have a more empowered, expansive sex life AND life.

I work with individuals who are partnered and unpartnered, as well as couples, in a somatic, experiential, empathetic way to discover their authentic sexual selves and desires, deepen their intimacy skills, and heal.

Many of us carry patterns and beliefs about ourselves, sex, relationships, emotions, and intimacy that are barriers to us having the life we desire, the relationships we desire, the experiences we desire, and fully expressing ourselves.

Here are some of those obstacles…

Common Obstacles to Emotional Intimacy

  • People pleasing – prioritizing other people’s wants, needs and comfort over one’s own

  • Withholding or avoiding feelings for any reason to avoid hurting or disappointing another person

  • Achievement-centric living (living in the head, not feeling feelings, not being present to self & others) 

  • Inability to relinquish control 

  • Lack of boundaries or inflexible boundaries 

  • Lack of awareness and skills to work with insecure attachment

  • Lack of awareness and skills to work with  triggers, emotional needs and core wounds

  • Prioritizing righteousness over connection

  • Internalized shame, guilt and low self-worth

Common Obstacles to Physical Intimacy

  • Not talking about sex

  • Too busy or preoccupied with other things for sex (parenthood, messy house, work) 

  • Built-up/unrepaired hurts and resentments in long-term relationships

  • Feeling ashamed of and disconnected from the body and pleasure (especially sexualized body parts)

  • Feeling inhibited — e.g., too self-conscious to enjoy one’s own pleasure

  • Disconnected from one’s sexual self and erotic energy

  • Spilling erotic energy and desire onto others

  • Low body confidence/self-judgment

  • Lack of erotic skills and knowledge about core desires, how to touch, and how to pleasure self and/or another person

  • Performance anxiety, erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, inability to orgasm, painful sex, low desire/low libido

  • Guilt, shame or anxiety about sexual desires and pleasure

Can you see yourself in any of these? Do you feel like there are obstacles to you having the relationships, intimacy, sex life, and life that you desire? If so, I’d love to help.

Sex & Intimacy Coaching for Individuals

I work with individuals who are single, dating and partnered to help them heal from painful beliefs and patterns that block them from having the life, relationships and sex they desire.

Through this coaching process individuals find more self-love, confidence, intimacy and clarity on what they need and are looking for in relationship with themselves and partner(s).

Sex & Intimacy Coaching for Couples

I work with couples in monogamous and open relationships to review, redesign or reinvigorate their connection and intimacy.

Through this coaching process couples find more variety and playfulness in their sex life, better communication around their needs, boundaries and desires, and the lasting skills to repair from past hurts and ongoing triggers.

self-guided options

Want to explore getting to know yourself emotionally and sexually, and expand your intimacy skills for deeper connection and hotter sex? 

hi, i'm allie

Your Sex & Intimacy Coach (and pleasure advocate)

This work changed my life, how I felt about myself, and my relationships. I’m excited to help you do the same.

Whether we work together in person or on Zoom, here’s how I’ll show up for you:

  • In relationship: I will be professional, but also tender and vulnerable with you. I care about you and I’m here for you.

  • Wholeheartedly: I bring a tremendous amount of myself into our sessions and communications between sessions. 

  • As a healer: I’ll help you identify and bring love to your core wounds so that you can invite more intimacy into your life.

  • As a shame slayer: I’ll help remove shame around your desires and needs so that you can develop more self-acceptance, self-love and self-worth.

  • Practically: I’ll help you find practical ways to realize your goals and work with you in an experiential way to improve your relationships.

testimonials

  • Allie helped me have my 1st G-spot orgasm!

    I'm so glad I found Allie! I was not able to have an O from penetration. My husband of 26 years is very patient and we tried a lot years ago. Before working with Allie, I was worried there was no hope if I was already 50 and hadn't made it happen yet. She taught me that in some people the area needs to be "woken up", she told me what toys to buy and how to do breathing exercises, etc. With her guidance my husband and I started communicating about what was needed and he was all in. Allie is so easy to talk to and any obstacles that came up she told me how to work with them. I'm happily having the missing Os and our sex life is the best it's been. Allie changed everything!

    - Jenya, married client

  • Allie helped me become more embodied & present to my boundaries.

    “Allie helped me see where my boundaries were lacking and become more present in my body. I couldn't ask for a more beautiful gift. I came to her because I was lacking boundaries and emotional intelligence vocabulary/tools. Allie's ability to mirror and hold me accountable helped me open up and recognize the difference embodied presence makes for intimacy. If you're searching for help with boundaries and intimacy, look no further.”

    -Christiana, divorced client, getting back into dating

  • Allie helped me feel confident and empowered in dating.

    “Allie is an exceptional coach. She has a unique talent that makes you feel confident, attractive, and empowered in dating. I came to her because I was struggling to connect emotionally with women and would often get anxious and in my head. Working with Allie has given me the courage to approach women that I find attractive. That's something I always desired but never could do. Work with Allie and your dating life and relationships will forever be changed for the better.”

    -Michael, single client in his 30’s

  • Allie helped me feel more resilient.

    “I came to Allie after a tumultuous divorce and hitting rock bottom. I knew I needed healing, and after a lifetime of therapy I needed to try something different. Allie’s grounded, practical and empathetic approach helped me reach a level of emotional maturity, self-love and hope that I had never felt before. I'm less reactive and more empathetic in my communication, and rather than using negative coping mechanisms when I feel anxious or depressed, I’m attuning to my emotions daily and letting them flow. Everyone in my life notices the difference in me.”

    - Rachel, divorced client, exploring polyamory

  • Allie helped me be more vulnerable.

    “Allie has an amazing ability to listen, digest, and provide an insightful next step. When I came to Allie I was in the process of exploring my sensuality and noticed I had some sexual shame that I wanted to explore. The work we did together helped me tap into my healthy feminine and be more comfortable with that energy, as well as find a sense of safety in myself and my body. Allie helped me deepen my awareness of my emotions and desires and be more vulnerable with everyone around me.”

    -Vanessa, single client in her 30’s

  • Allie helped me connect with myself.

    “Allie holds space for all your feelings - working with her is truly joyful - even when it is scary to admit you need help in the most vulnerable places. Her Ignite program helped me connect with with myself, my sexuality, and my sensuality. I learned about things that impacted me from early in my childhood that seemed insignificant, reasons I have let others engage with my body that didn't bring me pleasure, my difficulty with boundary setting, and dissociation from pleasure seeking. Allie knows what she is doing, trust the process, believe in yourself and allow her to help you connect with yourself.”

    -Lorraine, married client, mother

  • Allie showed me that connections can be more genuine when I expose my emotions.

    “Allie does a great job being present and addressing the work you're doing in the moment. She's flexible to the present conditions, which was helpful for me when unexpected feelings came up. Allie created a comfortable space for me to talk and learn about my perspective in terms of interpersonal communication. I highly recommend checking out what she has to offer. Allie brings her long background of multiple areas to the table.”

    - Andre, married client, father

  • I felt safe and seen with Allie.

    “Working with Allie has been a dream. I feel so safe and seen with her and free to discuss everything, from what is on my mind to my deepest, most vulnerable feelings and insights. She is intuitive and guides our sessions depending on what I am present with. We have tapped into some deep unconscious work and it is so powerful. It's also nice to not feel alone in my love life journey. And have support ensuring I'm adhering to my standards. Allie is such a gift! After just a few sessions with her, I feel more confident and empowered on dates and in my life.”

    - Angela, single client in her 30’s

  • Allie guided me deeper into myself.

    “Allie has guided me to delve into a deeper part of myself that’s been more profound than any therapy I’ve been in. She’s helped me reflect on how I connect and relate to other people. I always knew that vulnerability was my superpower, but due life experiences that caused me to be more guarded, I struggled to embody this in my relationships. Allie helped me practice vulnerability, by being vulnerable herself and encouraging me to go at my own pace.”

    — Natasha, single middle-aged client

  • Working with Allie has been the best investment I've made in my healing.

    “I've experienced more growth and attainment of long-aspired goals within 2 months of working with Allie than I have in the past 12 years of intense self-development courses, psychotherapy, art therapy, dance therapy, meditation, a myriad of energetic healing sessions and even work with other somatic practitioners. Working with Allie has been the best investment I've made in my healing, self confidence and ability to get more of what I want and need in my relationships.”

    -Viviana, single middle-aged client