The Magic of Experiencing Your Core Desires
What are your core desires?
Core desires are the top feelings that we want to feel.
They are often born out of our core wounds, or a missing experience/feeling from our childhood. They can even be born out of trauma.
Many of us feel shame for our core desires - especially if they are not socially acceptable, or if we've been scolded or haven't been celebrated for pursuing these feelings in the past.
Our core desires are the feelings that we want our work, our sex life, and our relationships to elicit.
There can often be a gap in how much we're experiencing (feeling) our core desires, which can leave us feeling unfulfilled, uninspired, shut down or disconnected.
Does your relationship, job or sex life give you the feeling(s) that you deeply desire?
If your life is not feel satisfying in one or more area, there’s a good chance that your core desires are not being fulfilled.
Examples of core desires include feeling: Loved, Secretive, Devious, Calm, Claimed, Degraded, Wanted, Powerful, Free, Precious, Desired, Beautiful, Connected, Considered, Playful, Fun, Vulnerable, Cared for, Alive, Creative, Taken care of, Reassured, Pushed, Open, Received, Dominant, Collaborative, Played With, Exploitative, Manipulative, Taken Advantage Of, Used, Naughty, Afraid, Penetrated, Approved of, Forced, Encouraged, Adventuresome, Ravished, Seen, Dissolved, Shamed, Impressive, Authentic, Consumed, United, Generous, Spiritual, Trusted, Punished, Out of Control, Open, Accepted, Powerful, Free, Not Responsible for Anything, Transcendent, Appreciated, In Control, Celebrated, Capable, Sexy, Taken, Probed, Submissive, Valued, Adored, Secretive, Exposed, Controlled, Feminine, Masculine, Accepted, Teased, Irresistible, Merged, Unattainable, Worshiped, Contained, Pleasing, Mysterious, Supported….the list goes on and on!
You might like to feel many of these things, but which ones *drive* you?
We all have a unique combination of core desires - and the feelings we want our job to elicit can be different from the feelings we want our sex or emotional life to elicit (but not always).
But whatever the combination is for you, something really amazing happens when you can distill your core desires down, getting reallllly specific about what *you* want to feel: You have a formula for how to create a deeply satisfying life that is not based on someone else's ideas, but is unique to YOU.
The beautiful thing about core desires is that once you know what they are, you can teach others how to elicit these feelings in you - the words, the phrases, the types of touch, and actions that make you feel *precisely* how you want to feel.
And being able to do this for someone else is absolute magic!!!
Are you curious about going deeper into your core desires (and so much more) with me? Learn more about my Boutique Coaching Program and schedule a free Discovery Call.
About the Author: Allie Andrews
As a Sex and Intimacy Coach, Allie helps individuals and couples have better sex and feel happier and more secure in themselves and their relationships.
Allie is a Somatica® trained Sex and Relationship Coach, Certified Yoga Teacher and Certified Holistic Health Coach with her Masters in Education. Learn more >>
